Mixing It Up

I took a nice, long weekend break from writing to snuggle my family, go out on a date(!), host a porch lunch party, celebrate Father’s Day, have some adventures on the Metro, go museum hopping, revamp the girls’ splashy baby pool oasis, do some projects, bust out some miles on the treadmill, rearrange some furniture and brainstorm. I also had a long talk with a very successful friend/mentor that got the wheels turning in my head about what I’m trying to accomplish with this little site.

I didn’t start writing to make money or be famous. This blog poured out of my brain and onto these pages because I felt passionate about sharing all the things that bring joy into my life. My journey hasn’t always been easy: I’ve been 40 pounds overweight, clinically depressed and in miserable relationships. There were even times since marrying the Love of My Life that not all was rosy and wonderful. Transitioning in and out of year-long deployments had us bickering and taking each other for granted. Sometimes marriage felt like work. Also, even though I had lost a lot of weight, maintaining my new figure was a constant struggle. Why did everything have to be so difficult?

I was focused on the wrong things; afloat on a sea of self-pity and self-doubt. I’m so fat. Our house is too small. He’s such a jerk. There’s no one to talk to. Not that it was a conscious thought, but it was as if I was thinking “If I wallow in my misery long enough, maybe someone will swoop down and fix everything that is wrong in my life.” The problem was, the more I stewed in my own malcontent, the more miserable I became.

I had started working out before my Honey and I got married, but for no other reason than to be skinny in my wedding dress. Then, working out became a way to balance out the calories I ingested. But one fateful day, while on the elliptical machine at our local YMCA, I was dripping with sweat and flooded with endorphins, and it finally clicked. Working out saturates your brain with oxygen and creates a porthole through which you can see all of life’s possibilities. If you have faith in God and take care of the body that He gave you, everything else will work itself out.

After putting on that proverbial oxygen mask of exercise, I was able to make the decision to focus on all of my blessings instead of feeling sorry for myself. I was able to clear the clutter from my brain and my physical surroundings which made me even more aware of all the potential that each day held. And I came to know an important fact:

When you focus on the good, more good things come into your life. 

So, you see – this blog started out as much more than just a home décor site, but lately, it seems like that’s what it has become. It’s true that interior design and DIY are passions of mine. Making your home a true reflection of yourself is an important part of the How To Be A Heroine process. Because, like I mentioned before, clearing out clutter and making things beautiful simply primes your soul to allow more beauty into your life. However important this step is, I have been remiss in glossing over the other central tenets.

  • Tap into all the sweat-benefits of exercise.
  • Stop focusing on calories and the number on the scale and start treating yourself to nutrient-dense, alkaline, whole food. vegan detox diet fruit vegetables
  • Make a decision to focus on your blessings and make the most of every day, while fulfilling God’s purpose for you.
  • Create a dwelling that you love and makes you smile.
  • Nurture, lift up and support your loved ones in every way.
  • Stoke the fires of adventure in your life by traveling and challenging yourself to try new things.tough mudder
  • Give back to others so you’re less focused on yourself.WWII Memorial, Honor Flight and
  • Unleash your inner “Bond Girl,” who is beautiful, charming, intelligent, resourceful and utterly unafraid of anything life has to throw at her.

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Since all these points are equally important in the journey to become a Heroine, from now on here at HTBAH, we’re going to try adding a little more structure. Here’s what you have to look forward to: 

Mondays: Health and wellness. All too often I forget to share with you all the healthy secrets that fill me with energy and keep me going. That error of omission ends now.

Thursdays:  Recipe of the week! Now, I know this kind of overlaps with the health category since I don’t cook like Paula Deen (even though I adore her), but I wanted to dedicate a specific day to our favorite things that we create in the kitchen.

The rest of the week will be the usual smattering of home décor projects, random musings, plans for trips and my philosophy for living. And remember, I’m always available via email for life coaching, fitness/nutrition counseling and interior design advice. Just contact me at ca@howtobeaheroine.com  I’ve taken on several clients, and my services remain, for now, free of charge. I just want to spread love and joy around the world!


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About C.A.

I'm the daughter of a Marine and a "Bond Girl" type of mom who bestowed upon me a wealth of wisdom. I want to bring that courage, purpose, intelligence, resourcefulness, glamour and joie-de-vivre into every aspect of my life.
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18 Responses to Mixing It Up

  1. Craig says:

    i think you’re all kinds of awesome. keep it up!

  2. Kudos to you and this post in particular! I continue to struggle with loosing those last “ten pounds.” Though I’m an extremely active person, ‘exercise’ has always been on the back burner for me–even though I have an in-home gym right downstairs! I’ve recently come to the realization that I have to just suck it up and find a way to incorporate exercise into my daily activity.

    Your blog is inspiring and I look forward to each post! Cheers

    • C.A. says:

      Thank you Heather for the kind words! That’s awesome that you’ve put aside a space in your home for a gym! I know it’s still hard to put aside the time for exercise, especially if you feel like you “need” to do it. Try thinking of it like a spa treatment – like you’re doing something nice for yourself. It helps! xoxo

  3. Kelly Cat says:

    Wow CA I love that was so personal and open. You rock! Can’t wait for the new weekly line up!!

    • C.A. says:

      Thanks for being so nice, Kelly. I was honestly a little nervous to put all that out there! But it’s all worth it if even one person is inspired. Thank you for reading! xoxo

  4. Ricky says:


  5. Keri says:

    Continually inspiring. So proud of you!

  6. Kate says:

    Thank you for such an honest post, CA! I follow a lot of blogs but yours is one of the few that I eagerly look forward to seeing a post from every day. Ive come to really admire you quite a lot. And its not that I’m happy to hear that you went through a rough patch, but I have to admit it is inspiring to hear that you struggled with weight loss and depression–and overcame it. I have asthma so I haven’t figured out how to tackle the exercise thing, but I look forward to more posts about healthy living! I hope to use your inspiration to put a spark under my butt and start
    taking better care of myself. I was first attracted to your blog for the home
    decor posts but now I read it for your clever writing, inspiration, and to
    hope some of your attitude rubs off on me!

    • C.A. says:

      Kate – thank you so much for reading and being a part of this community! Your comment means so much to me. It seems like you have an amazing spirit and joie de vivre – I doubt that there is anything you couldn’t tackle! I’m sorry to hear about your asthma. I don’t know a lot about it, but I’m sure it’s a struggle, especially in the arena of physical exertion. Are you able to take nice long walks? This is probably the best form of exercise there is! Low-impact, fat-burning and peace-of-mind restoring! Thanks again for your comment. xoxo

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  9. Oh CA, I am so glad you wrote this. From my occasional pop-ins (I first discovered you via AT), my impression was that you’ve always had a beautiful, happy, healthy life. It is very inspiring to read that you have struggled with losing weight and with depression. I’ve dropped all the literal baggage (back to a body I feel comfortable in), but I’m having a lot of trouble with the mental baggage. I’ve battled depression on and off for years, and it’s so hard for me to focus on the good in my life because my default is to fixate on what is wrong. (I’m definitely stuck in the wallowing in misery phase you mentioned). I know my mental health is dependent on my physical health… but I teach and with 9-10 hour work days, it’s been so hard for me to commit to a regular exercise routine. I’m hoping I can use this summer break as a chance to recharge and recalibrate so that I can really put a priority on my health when I go back to school in the fall. My kids will be better off with a teacher who is calm and balanced and healthy rather than my usual anxious, overwhelmed, overtired state. Although that was my plan last summer too, and as soon as school started everything went out the window and I was having crazy anxiety attacks :(

    I’ll be sure to check back in regularly for more inspiration– and maybe I’ll start using my blog (which has been a mish mash of home decor and miscellany) to catalog my progress!

    • C.A. says:

      Lauren – thank you so much for commenting and for being so honest about your struggles. I think just forming the thought in your head that you want to recharge and recalibrate has already put you on the path to happiness. Use the time this summer to relish every good moment that comes along. Focusing on all the blessings you have is the key. And I’m always here if you want to talk about diet, exercise and all the other methods that can reignite your spark!

  10. Hatton says:

    I love this post. And I want to be a client!

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