I took a nice, long weekend break from writing to snuggle my family, go out on a date(!), host a porch lunch party, celebrate Father’s Day, have some adventures on the Metro, go museum hopping, revamp the girls’ splashy baby pool oasis, do some projects, bust out some miles on the treadmill, rearrange some furniture and brainstorm. I also had a long talk with a very successful friend/mentor that got the wheels turning in my head about what I’m trying to accomplish with this little site.
I didn’t start writing to make money or be famous. This blog poured out of my brain and onto these pages because I felt passionate about sharing all the things that bring joy into my life. My journey hasn’t always been easy: I’ve been 40 pounds overweight, clinically depressed and in miserable relationships. There were even times since marrying the Love of My Life that not all was rosy and wonderful. Transitioning in and out of year-long deployments had us bickering and taking each other for granted. Sometimes marriage felt like work. Also, even though I had lost a lot of weight, maintaining my new figure was a constant struggle. Why did everything have to be so difficult?
I was focused on the wrong things; afloat on a sea of self-pity and self-doubt. I’m so fat. Our house is too small. He’s such a jerk. There’s no one to talk to. Not that it was a conscious thought, but it was as if I was thinking “If I wallow in my misery long enough, maybe someone will swoop down and fix everything that is wrong in my life.” The problem was, the more I stewed in my own malcontent, the more miserable I became.
I had started working out before my Honey and I got married, but for no other reason than to be skinny in my wedding dress. Then, working out became a way to balance out the calories I ingested. But one fateful day, while on the elliptical machine at our local YMCA, I was dripping with sweat and flooded with endorphins, and it finally clicked. Working out saturates your brain with oxygen and creates a porthole through which you can see all of life’s possibilities. If you have faith in God and take care of the body that He gave you, everything else will work itself out.
After putting on that proverbial oxygen mask of exercise, I was able to make the decision to focus on all of my blessings instead of feeling sorry for myself. I was able to clear the clutter from my brain and my physical surroundings which made me even more aware of all the potential that each day held. And I came to know an important fact:
When you focus on the good, more good things come into your life.
So, you see – this blog started out as much more than just a home décor site, but lately, it seems like that’s what it has become. It’s true that interior design and DIY are passions of mine. Making your home a true reflection of yourself is an important part of the How To Be A Heroine process. Because, like I mentioned before, clearing out clutter and making things beautiful simply primes your soul to allow more beauty into your life. However important this step is, I have been remiss in glossing over the other central tenets.
- Tap into all the sweat-benefits of exercise.
- Stop focusing on calories and the number on the scale and start treating yourself to nutrient-dense, alkaline, whole food.
- Make a decision to focus on your blessings and make the most of every day, while fulfilling God’s purpose for you.
- Create a dwelling that you love and makes you smile.
- Nurture, lift up and support your loved ones in every way.
- Stoke the fires of adventure in your life by traveling and challenging yourself to try new things.
- Give back to others so you’re less focused on yourself. and
- Unleash your inner “Bond Girl,” who is beautiful, charming, intelligent, resourceful and utterly unafraid of anything life has to throw at her.
Since all these points are equally important in the journey to become a Heroine, from now on here at HTBAH, we’re going to try adding a little more structure. Here’s what you have to look forward to:
Mondays: Health and wellness. All too often I forget to share with you all the healthy secrets that fill me with energy and keep me going. That error of omission ends now.
Thursdays: Recipe of the week! Now, I know this kind of overlaps with the health category since I don’t cook like Paula Deen (even though I adore her), but I wanted to dedicate a specific day to our favorite things that we create in the kitchen.
The rest of the week will be the usual smattering of home décor projects, random musings, plans for trips and my philosophy for living. And remember, I’m always available via email for life coaching, fitness/nutrition counseling and interior design advice. Just contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org I’ve taken on several clients, and my services remain, for now, free of charge. I just want to spread love and joy around the world!